Kissing in the D A R K, D A R K, D A R K darkdarkdark

So many things have been done to support me having a better sleep experience. Today’s thing: a room darkening shade.

Here we have the blurry before picture. The curtains didn’t really do much to block the light and this is especially a problem in June and July because the sun starts to come up before 4:30 am.

Here is the blurry “after” picture. It’s still quite light outside, but that room-darkening shad is blocking that light!

Here’s hoping it will help improve the sleep patterns.

An unusual thank you

I wasn’t really sure what was going on with this window display near my work.

But then I got closer and discovered it was made from…

…many, many envelopes that hold parking tickets. And then the message was clear. The cat was a reference to Parking Kitty which lets people pay for parking from their phone.

I don’t drive to work, so I don’t have to pay for parking, but ever since Parking Kitty has appeared, the days of my coworkers running up and down the stairs to feed the meter have ended.

The orange sign says that a house will go.

The orange sign was hanging on the gate outside the door of the church near my house. Because that church is within 300 yards of a demolition, it got a warning.

I felt very sad, because I thought this beautiful house had escaped the demolition fate. So I took a bunch of pictures.

And then I eventually figured out that the address said Kilpatrick street, not Interstate. Somehow, this house has survived! You can see the temporary chain link fence where they are cutting off the backyard.

Unfortunately, the smaller house around the corner is the one that will be demoed, along with the building on the corner. You can see a picture of these buildings by going to this post. And I suppose that means the lilac tree will also be on it’s way out. I hate to lose a good lilac tree.

You can see what might be coming by reading this post.

When it takes two planners, two pens and a phone to plan out your weekend.

One of the things that always bugged me about the standard two-page planners I used from ages 20–35 was that Saturday and Sunday had to share a space that was the same size as every other day of the week got.

I’ve always had much more to do on the weekends, and I hated trying to cram everything into the smaller space.

The plus of the bullet journal is that you get to make you own size of pages for the day, and on this one both Saturday and Sunday each got their own page.

I’ve taken to doing a little journaling in a cheap composition book to determine my priorities. I have four categories (rest, chores, work, rituals) and I find that doing some free-form writing shakes out all the things and helps me put them in some sort of priority order.

The phone is where my calendar lives, so I needed that to remind me of official appointments. Once I have those down in the cheap composition book, I can start listing all the other things.

This was a weekend with more things at set times than I like. So I set this up in more of a time format. On other weekends I list my time-based appointments at the top, and then made two other lists: things that need to be done; things that would be nice to get done.

It’s been working well.

Alex Gino at the North Portland Library

Thanks to the Multnomah County Library’s commitment to bringing authors of children’s literature to local audiences, I got to see Alex Gino, author of George and You Don’t Know Everything Jilly P. at the North Portland Library. Gino is non-binary and uses the pronouns they, them, and their.

Things I learned:

Alex prefers to refer to their book George as Melissa’s Story, because George is a name that Melissa would prefer to never hear again. This had me wondering at the process to pick the book’s title.

There were many questions from the audience, which we submitted on index cards. The audience was at least half young people which might be the cause of Alex’s encouragement to write down questions that begin with something besides “what.” (Although my question What is your favorite part about being an author? also began with “what” so perhaps we all needed that encouragement.)

There was a question about navigating the world as a non-binary person and they said that it is hard, but it used to be harder, namely because there wasn’t a term. They were 19 before they found the term genderqueer.

Their next book Rick is coming in 2020 and they wrote it as a companion book to Melissa’s Story. They cited the reason that they did not write a sequel to Melissa’s Story is that for a book to happen, plot would have to happen and that means that bad things would have to happen to Melissa. They are not about having bad things happen to Melissa. Instead, Rick is a story investigating what it means to be so unsure of yourself that you hang out with the bully.

When asked about Melissa’s Story becoming an OBOB Book (Oregon Battle of the Books) they said that they grew up in a world where being queer on purpose around children wasn’t a thing. There were certainly people who were queer around children, but they had to hide that part of them. For their book to be recognized as literature is phenomenal and it gives them hope that things are moving in a good direction.

This led to a story of the signing event that happened on Sunday in Canby, Oregon. Apparently there were 250 people in attendance. The person sitting next to me was in attendance for the Canby signing and said that attendance was so high because Melissa’s Story was excluded from Canby’s OBOB tournament and the Canby Mayor rejected a proclamation honoring International Transgender Day of Visibility. So people of Canby made themselves visible in support of the author.

They ended their talk by saying that they believed that books saved lives and what their hope is for Melissa’s Story is that someday a trans woman will be walking late at night and someone coming toward her might be a very big guy, who is also drunk, and who recognizes this person as trans. And instead of doing what happens to so many trans people now–harassment or assault–that person will think of Melissa and just walk on by and everyone will get home safe.

The temporary chain link fence in Portland, Oregon: a harbinger of deconstruction to come.

It’s become a familiar sight in Portland. Chain link fence anchored by cement blocks surrounding an unused building or house. Soon the space behind the fence will be transformed. The buildings or houses will disappear and something newer and taller will grow in its place.

Here’s what Next Portland reported on 3/29/2016:

Early Assistance has been requested for a project at 8106 N Interstate Ave:

Proposal is for a new five story building with 120 apartment units including 64 group living units with shared kitchens. Proposed 33% parking ratio minus a 25% bike parking reduction will be provided in an undergrd garage.

And here’s what it says on 4/20/2018

Early Assistance has been requested by Habit for Humanity for a project at 8124 N Interstate Ave:

More than likely – future code -with not a lot of impact to the site/project by the changes: New construction of 30 units of multi-dwelling housing development. It will be two (2) 3-story buildings to be constructed in two phases. All units will be sold as permanently affordable condos through the City of Portland preference policy. This project is to move through the GATR fast-track process with oversight from PHB.

So we might be getting more permanently affordable condos in the neighborhood. I live in one, so I should be the first to say Welcome to the Neighborhood.

I do worry about parking, though. Right now, our situation is good. Add 30-plus cars? Perhaps not so good.

Books read in March 2019

14 books read this month, thanks to a vacation at the start of the month. And 13 of the books I really liked. I remain thankful that assignment reading (Librarian Book Group, Family Book Group) is so darn enjoyable.


Picture books: When Angels Sing: The Story of Carlos Santana
Middle grade: all of them
Young adult: both of them
Grownup fiction: all of them
Young nonfiction: both of them
Grownup nonfiction: yes, that too.

Picture Books

All of a Kind Family Hanukkah
Emily Jenkins & Paul O. Zelinsky
Read for Librarian Book Group

I adored the All of a Kind Family books when I was a child, so I was excited to see this book pop up in the Youth Media Awards.

And then I was underwhelmed, perhaps because my expectations were too high. I didn’t feel that this picture book captured all that was delightful about the All of a Kind Family, and I didn’t love the illustrations.

It might be a nice as a Hanukkah intro, though I’m not Jewish, so can’t say for sure.

When Angels Sing: The Story of Carlos Santana

A short biography of Carlos Santana with gorgeous illustrations. The illustrations are made even better by the fact that they incorporate the year. Brilliant!

Middle Grade

You Don’t Know Everything Jilly P.
Alex Gino

A middle grade novel about how to be a white person and a good ally, both for members of the Deaf community and people of color. Very short and nicely done.

A Crack in the Sea
Read for Family Book Group

A great blend of fantasy and historical fiction as well as a work that highlights sibling relationship and slavery. Though I wondered about the use of modern words (kids) in a world that hadn’t had contact with our world since the late 18th century. The author’s note at the end added important context to the story.

I sat on this review until after Family Book Group so I could report what everyone thought. Alas, the three children in the group read, at the most, half of the book. One of them stopped reading after the first page because he thought he had read the book in third grade. But he had not.

The adults liked the book. Mostly.

New Kid
Jerry Craft
Read for Librarian Book Group

In this graphic novel, Jordan is starting at a new school where most people aren’t the same race or class as him. In bright, clear drawings we see Jordon deal with microaggressions, joining sports teams, and making new friends who have his back.

I did notice at one point that spring sports were not required and then at a later point they were required.

The Book of Boy
Catherine Gilbert Murdock
Read for Librarian Book Group

It’s 1350 and the plague has killed one-third of the people in Europe. In France, our main character, Boy, is content to tend the goats on his master’s estate, and avoid rocks thrown at him by Ox, who taunts Boy for his hunchback.

Enter a pilgrim on the search for relics. Boy is compelled by Cook to go with him, so he can pray for her soul. So begins our adventure which leads to surprises for both Boy and the pilgrim. The book includes lovely line drawings at the beginning of chapters.

I felt the ending was a bit hurried and convenient, but until that point, I greatly enjoyed following Boy on his journey.

Young Adult

The Field Guide to the North American Teenager
Ben Phillippe
Read for Liberian Book Group

I loved Norris as a hapless Canadian teen set adrift in his new home of Austin, Texas and I loved the chapter headers. This was a low-key amusing book, in that it was never actually laugh-out-loud funny, but was instead a steady heh-heh (though not in a Beavis & Butt-Head way) type of funny.

It did, however, need one more editing pass. There were several times sentences didn’t make sense and there were errors. At one point there is a reference to the father of a set of twins. Later, it was stated the twins had two mothers.

Field Notes on Love
Jennifer E. Smith

Hugo, one of the Surrey Six, a locally famous set of sextuplets, was going to go on a train trip across the US with his girlfriend, before heading off to the local college with his five siblings. He’d rather go elsewhere, but the six are a package deal, and it’s one way to get a free education.

But then his girlfriend breaks up with him before they can leave. She encourages him to go on the trip and he plans to. But there’s one problem. The tickets are in her name, and aren’t refundable. So Hugo advertises for anyone with the same name and he gets Mae, who is heading off to college and working through her disappointment at not being accepted into film school.

And thus we are off on a cross-country train trip with stops in major cities. This was a breezy contemporary romance that offered an evening’s worth of entertainment.

Grownup Fiction

Crazy Rich Asians
Kevin Kwan

I ran out of fiction before my vacation ended, plus my flight home was delayed, so the Tucson Airport got $16.99 of my money (plus a bit more for M&Ms) and I got to read the book version of a movie I watched last summer.

I’m glad I read this book because it cleared up a lot of questions I had about the relationship in the movie. They were the kind of questions that had me wondering why I should be rooting for this couple. Thanks to the more time/more words situation of being a book, things made more sense.

Also, this book has footnotes! I love footnotes, and welcome them in all books. They cleared up some questions I had about words in the text and put in context what was going on. They helped a lot with grounding me in a world I’m unfamiliar with.

I also loved the large quantity of characters and how I didn’t have trouble keeping everyone straight–though I did spend a lot of time referring to the handy family tree in the front.

On the negative side, there was a lot more head hopping in this book than I’ve seen in some time. It was jarring to be in one character’s head in one paragraph and then in someone else’s in the next.

While I enjoyed this book, I did find that about the three-quarters mark the materialism had me feeling slightly ill.

I’m still not convinced Rachel and Nick are the ones for each other, but I had a good time reading their story.

Ian McEwan

It’s been a while since I’ve seen the movie, but it was the kind of movie that is seared into my brain.

Based on that searing, I can say that this is the rare book/movie combination where you can pick your preferred medium and enjoy. The movie manages to get across exactly what the book is saying and doesn’t add or subtract from its source.

This is a heartbreaking story, made more so by the remote voice that is telling the tale.

It’s hard and beautiful and I recommend a read, a watch, or both. (I mean, if you watch it, you get to see that amazing dress, so there’s that in the movie’s favor.)

And, in news to me, apparently I read this book 11 years ago. And liked both the book and the movie then too!

The Witch Elm
Tana French

First off, a question. The tree in the book is referred to as a Wytch Elm. Is the title word “witch” instead of “wytch” Americanized for US reader’s benefit, or is it purposeful and a clue to the story?

I loved the main character, Toby, a golden boy who really had no idea that everyone’s life wasn’t as easy as his until there was a sudden turn of events. He seemed a perfect pick for the times we are a living in.

The turn that Toby takes isn’t the last as this story loops around several times tying up some things and bursting open others. This is a complex story with complex characters. I think Tana’s French’s greatest gift is how she wraps you up in her world.

Young Nonfiction

Baby Elephant Joins the Herd
American Museum of Natural History
Read for Librarian Book Group

Good book of facts about baby elephants which also includes a lot of pictures of baby elephants, which is awesome!

Bloom Boom!
April Pulley Sayre
Read for Librarian Book Group

A gorgeous picture book of blooms from different areas across the US. I appreciated the rhyme scheme which switched things up at just the right moment. Also the back matter gave me the names of all the flowers. It was also nice that desert blooms were featured so prominently.

Grownup Nonfiction

A World Without Whom
Emmy J. Favilla

Written by the global copy cheif of BuzzFeed this is a breezy meditation on how language should be depicted on the internet. As a descriptivist, I was down for Ms. Favilla’s various pronouncements and I especially appreciated the chapter: “How not to be a jerk: writing about sensitive topics” and also her tracking the loss of meaning of lol (aka LOL, aka Laughing Out Loud) from it’s origins in the early internet era to today’s proliferation and loss of meaning.

There’s also a handy “terms you should know” section, a helpful section on headlines (now that we’re free of space constraints, just what should that headline be?) and many paragraphs of practical advice such as this:

To that end, let’s talk a little about a language trend I’d be negligent to ignore: everything eventually becoming one word. The AP Stylebook is a fantastic resource for very many things, and I realize BuzzFeed’s job listings explicitly request “no haters” but holy crud—it took until 2011 for APS to say sayonara to the hyphen in email. Wut? Way, way back in the ’90s—when people were more likely to ask Jeeves than ask GoogleWierd’s style guide boldly asserted, “We know from experience that new terms often start as two words, then become hyphenated, and end up as one word. Go there now.” Descriptivists for the win! Go forth, young internetters, and close up those words (unless, you know, they look weird).

Songs of the month March 2019: Salvation, Now That You’re Gone

“Salvation” The Strumbellas

I no longer remember where I heard this song, but it’s great! And the video has families making up a dance routine in 30 minutes and then performing it.

It’s a classic rock song setup (verse/chorus/verse/chorus/bridge/chorus) and that bluprint imprinted on me early.

Also, if I hadn’t watched this video I would have had no idea that the lyric was: Hey now kid, you’re my salvation.

“Now That You’re Gone” The Raconteurs

Speaking of things that imprinted early, everything about this song is something that imprinted on me. The steady drip of the bass, the guitar lick responding to the lyrics, the angry/sad/triumphant lyrics. These are all things I love.

Never known such unhappiness/Never thought it would end like this/What will I do now that you’re gone?

As for the video? Eh. The mirror thing is cool. There’s also classic boobage. Not my thing.

SKS postcards: coffee promos

Sara sent me these postcards, which both arrived on the same day, miracle of miracles. They are promo cards for a coffee delivery subscription her husband received for Christmas.

She had a plan to perhaps pass them off as some quick exotic travel, but that plan was thwarted by the information on the back about the coffee beans from the regions.

Her plan would have also been thwarted by her many social media updates about the writing of her dissertation, which is due soon. This work doesn’t lend much to the Secret International Travel Narrative.

They are nicely-designed postcards that made it through the mail mostly unscathed.