Essay: Patricia’s Money Philosophy Series. Part I of IV: Budget

I believe in paying attention to your money.  I think that how you care for it and what you
spend it on make a difference—not only for your own piece of mind, but also in
the context of the universe and energy and whatnot.  Money ignored is money that won’t be around
for long.  So here’s an incredibly long
and detailed four-part series about how I manage my money.  To see the entire series look for the tag
“Money.”

I have a budget.
My first forays into budgeting involved a modified envelope
system.  I was working at Pizza Hut in
high school and I had three categories. 
Savings, spending, and my favorite category:  saving up for something good, which I called
SUSG.  The percentages are hazy, but I
think half of my pay went to savings, and the other half was split between the
spending/SUSG category.  I don’t actually
recall what “good” things I was saving up for, but I think they were items like
clothing that cost more than $50.00 or do-dads I bought from catalogs.  Ah, the life of a middle-class teenager, when
everything is covered except for extras. 
Still, that savings category meant that I could offer to kick in money
for my college education.  My mother
suggested I keep it instead and use it to live off of.  This was rather brilliant on her part as I
blew through half of it in a freshman freedom spending orgy. Unlike many
freshmen, nothing was spent on drinking or drugs as I lived on a dry campus,
didn’t drink and wasn’t into drugs.  There
was, however, a lot of catalog buying. At the end of the first semester, I
found myself horrified at my spendthrift ways, reigned myself in and from then
on paid for most of my expenses while in college.  Granted, my parents were paying my tuition,
room and board, and later rent, but I managed to work enough to procure my own
supplies, clothing and sundries and, when I moved out of the dorms, food.  I kept an eye on what I was earning and what
I was spending and I think this was a good stepping stone for supporting myself
in my post-college life. 
My budget works for
me.
My budget now is inspired by two systems: Your Money or Your Life by Dominguez
& Robin.  I also use the 50/30/20 principle
first proposed in the book All Your Worth
by Elizabeth Warren and Amelia Warren Tyagi. 
Your Money or Your Life
teaches you to think of your money in an entirely different way and I feel it
is recommended reading, even if you don’t follow the program exactly as
planned.  What YMYL does is teach you how
to personalize your budget to your spending patterns.  Before this book, I would buy notebooks at
the store with pre-made budgets.  I loved
them, because they had a sense of order, but I usually quickly grew
disillusioned as the categories didn’t fit me. 
They always included a line for “childcare” that I didn’t need.  I crossed it out and wrote in something else,
but the pencil line through the printed text annoyed me.
With YMYL, I tracked my own spending and created a budget
filled with categories I actually used. 
I dropped the entire budget into an Excel spreadsheet and have been
using it ever since.  Not the same one,
of course.  Any time something changes
financially—every six months or so, but as often as every three or four
months—I revise the budget, changing amounts or sometimes even adding or
subtracting categories.  My categories
are pretty detailed and split into several sub categories, see below for a
complete listing.  Despite my
thoroughness, I believe you can have a budget with as few as five categories:
Savings, Food, Shelter, Clothing, Misc. 
However, those categories are going to become unwieldy, unless you make
very little money.
I like the 50/30/20 principle because it gives me a good
idea of how I should be spending (and saving) my money.  Before I read this book I would always wonder
if the amount I spent on groceries (or whatever) was too much.  In this system, Warren and Tyagi propose that
20% of your net pay goes into savings, 30% is spent on wants and 50% is spent
on must-haves.  They define must-haves as
the bills you have to pay month after month and wants as some fun money right
now. 20% goes toward saving for the future. 
Though I was attracted to the 50/30/20 plan’s big emphasis
on saving and the firm, and large, percentage, I don’t want you to think that
I’ve got the plan implemented.  However,
I just reviewed my budgets since I adopted the program and I can tell you that
since May of 2008, I have only met the percentage goals with two of eleven
budgets made during that time.  So it’s
still a stretch goal for me.  This may be
because I work a 32-hour week, but am still living as if I work 40.
Current budget categories
Food
Subcategories of groceries, joint groceries, dining out and
garden supplies. 
I’m thinking of adding a further category of “sweets”
because my dining out category has been over spent a lot the last few months
and I think it’s due to the cookie habit I have formed.  The food category as a whole has been tough
the last few years.  I’m budgeting much
more than I ever have, but still struggling to keep expenses down.
Shelter
Mortgage
This is a joint category. 
I’ll talk more about how we handle the joint expenses later.
Bills
individual categories:
student loans, school, cat, car, house holding
The “school” category came about when I was paying for a
certificate program to add to my degree. 
It has not yet gone away, but has been reduced to a minimal amount.  The “house holding” category is for
maintenance of my household supplies. 
Like a woman with a dowry, I bring all the kitchen stuff to the
relationship. I aim to take all the kitchen stuff with me from the relationship
if it ever comes to that and I don’t muddy the waters by buying anything with
joint funds.
joint categories:
phone, land lease, life insurance, homeowners insurance,
garbage, electricity, water/sewer, yard, internet, saving up for big
appliances, joint savings, joint vacation, dates, household supplies,
furniture/decorating, cleaning.
The “cleaning” category is how we pay ourselves for
housework completed.
Clothing
Work, fun, sport
These used to all be separate categories, probably because I
was in my 20s.  Now it’s all just one
thing.
Transportation
Bicycle
This category used to contain a category for public
transportation, but I’ve been lucky that my employer has provided a monthly
transit pass for the last six years.  I
guess the “car” category from bills should go here, but I haven’t ever moved
it.
Health
Personal care, doctor/drugs, gym
Personal care is all the “stuff” to maintain me, like
toothbrushes, shampoo and tweezers, etc.
Recreation
Plays and lessons, vacation, newspaper, computer, random fun
things to do
The plays and lessons category used to be horribly overspent
until I spent a year pledging not to take any classes.  Now it is only moderately overspent now and
then as I want to see more plays than I budget for.  That said, it’s a very minimal amount
budgeted each month. I would love to increase it. “Random fun things to do” is
my general spending money each month.  I
found it easier to lump the movies, the occasional book bought or entrance fee
paid in one category than to make separate categories for all of these items.
Gifts
Personal gifts, Christmas, public radio donation, church
donation.
I have a budget amount for family/friend birthdays and a
budget amount for Christmas.
Savings
3 month
I could technically rename this “8 month” because I finally
met my three months of living expenses saving goal.  But I like the historic flavor of it.

Three sentence movie reviews: Friends With Kids

So the thing about movies with “alternative” plots is that they nearly all of the time end up in the traditional way.*  The trick of such a movie is to be able to bring me along, so I agree with the traditional ending by the time they get there.** This was a very smart, funny movie*** and I can report I was quite happy with the ending so now you are left to figure out if it kept an alternate solution, or if it was just well written enough to charm me into agreeing with the traditional ending.****

Cost:  $1.20 from Redbox (impulse purchase on the way out of the store)
Where watched:  at home.

*I’m not saying this one does, but most of them do.

**the movie He’s Just Not That Into You completely failed with the Aniston/Affleck plot which massively annoyed me.
***Shawn Levy said something to the effect of: “it’s the rare romantic comedy that is both romantic AND a comedy” and I think he hit the nail on the head.
****Or you could just watch it yourself.


ps:  Best DVD extra?  Meagan Fox expertly playing some video game and trying to coach a hapless Adam Scott.

Three sentence movie reviews: William Shakespeare’s Romeo + Juliet

The first few minutes of this movie had me wondering if I was going to like it this time around, because I had fond memories from my first viewing when it was originally released, but this time I found the introduction incredibly obnoxious. But once Leonardo DiCaprio and Clare Danes showed up I loved it all over again.  There was a lot of kissing–the poster is quite accurate in its representation.

Cost: Free from Library
Where watched:  At home.

ps:  I almost couldn’t find this in the library catalog because it’s not Romeo & Juliet it’s Romeo plus sign Juliet.  So now I call it that in my mind.  It’s also from the era of movies needing to tell us who their famous authors are, as if we don’t already know.  I recall “Nathaniel Hawthorne’s Scarlet Letter” also being a title of the same era.

End of the 6 in Kenton


When I moved to the Kenton neighborhood, I was thrilled that not only was I smack dab in the middle of two Max stops, but that one of the stops was a “Transit Center” meaning a number of bus routes converged at that point.  I was in public transit heaven.  I could take the yellow line downtown. Or I could take the #4 to George Middle School where I volunteered for two years.  I could also take the #4 back toward downtown taking me through Mississippi’s hip neighborhood.  I could take the #75 to the St. John’s Movie theater or the other way to a variety of places: Trader Joe’s in Hollywood, Laurelhurst Park, Hawthorne Blvd.  I could also take the #6 to Jantzen Beach and once they cut the amount of service on Sundays, the #6 was my quickest route to church, depositing me a short three blocks away.  Living near a transit center is awesome.

I still have the Yellow Line,  #4 and #75 at my service.  But beginning September 1, the #6 route changed “to  eliminate duplicate service.”

I understand that Trimet is stretched to capacity, but as someone who doesn’t own a car, some of those duplicate services are important.  Now if I want to go to Jantzen Beach I have to take the #75 to MLK and transfer to the #6.  If I want to go to church I get there way too early or way too late.  I’m disappointed to lose the #6 route through Kenton and I hope service will be restored someday.

Three sentence movie reviews: Burlesque

This movie had promise with the fun dancing and Kristen Bell and all that, but it took a turn for the worse about halfway through and never recovered.  I don’t think Cher is a very good actress (sorry!) and Christina Aguilera seemed to be channelling Cher at times which was incredibly distracting.  Not even the usually saving presence of Stanley Tucchi came to my rescue, this movie was just bad.

Cost:  Free from library.
Where watched:  At home.

Three sentence movie reviews: Sleepwalk with Me

I loved how this movie captured so well that confusing time post-college when so many mistakes are made on the way to becoming a fully functioning adult.  Lauren Ambrose was incredible as usual and Mike Birbiglia was a surprisingly good actor.  The supporting cast was also fabulous and I’m happy to report this was the rare case of a movie about stand-up comedy actually being funny.

Cost: $7.00
Where watched:  The beautiful gem Cinema 21, where not only do you not have to spend time waiting for the movie to begin attempting to ignore assualtive ads for television shows and video games the theater plays (I’m looking at you Regal Cinemas) you also don’t even have to watch a slide show of ads (which I don’t mind, but it was quite restful to just stare at a blank screen before the movie began.)

Also, I saw this with Matt and then the next week saw Mike Birbiglia at Live Wire! on Saturday and then Ira
Glass (who co-wrote) on Sunday!  How cool is that?

And! Plus!  Who knew all those years ago when I first heard this story on This American Life, that I would then read a book and see a movie about the same topic?

Books read in August 2012

Yes!  A mere six books finished this month!  And with three weeks off from work!  Good job me!

Read
Are You My Mother
Alison Bechdel
This was beautifully drawn and pretty hard to slog through.  Alison Bechdel has done a lot of therapy and thinking about herself.  Her story is sort of interesting, sort of annoying.  Parts are rather funny, but the whole thing is very cerebral, in a distancing way.

The World of Downton Abbey
Jessica Fellowes
This was a “companion book” to the TV series which I totally grabbed from the “Lucky Day” shelf at the library and enjoyed.  Aside from insights about the actors, the book also examined different facets of society and related them to the characters we saw in the series.  It was the kind of “history-lite” learning I enjoy.

Why We Broke Up
Daniel Handler
Matt and I read aloud.
Reading this out loud is a perfect way to capture Handler’s fabulous prose.  I liked it the second time just as much as the first.

Specials
Scott Westerfield
It may have been the wait between the last book and this one or it may be that it took me too long to read it, but I found this book to be less compelling than the first two.  The elements were there, but they had grown stale.

Jane Eyre
Charlotte Bronte
Read for Kenton Book Group.
By the time I got to the end of this book, I loved it.  This book has everything!  And I mean everything!  At one point I challenged Matt to tell me any fiction plot point that didn’t involve guns or sci/fi and that it would be in Jane Eyre.  And it was!  We played that game for 45 minutes and every plot point he mentioned was in the book which was doubly interesting because he was mostly recounting plots from comic books.  I realized that the book had everything in it when Jane Eyre goes on what would now be termed as a “shopping spree” near the end of the book.

That said, I had trouble getting in to the book. The dense prose and archaic vocabulary was off-putting before I realized that I love dense prose in modern books, why not love it in this one.  Still, I think if I hadn’t been on vacation, I might not have finished this.   And wouldn’t I have missed out?

The Marriage Plot
Jeffrey Eugenides
While I adored Middlesex I found this to be incredibly “eh.”  None of the characters caught my attention which is often the kiss of death for me and a book.  There were some amusing observations here and there, so that was nice, but overall, I was not a fan.

Started and did not finish.
Prince Caspian
C.S. Lewis.
Yep.  I’m throwing in the towel on this series. I just don’t care enough.

Moneyball.
Maybe if I had not already seen the movie I would be more interested in this book?  But the movie so nicely sums things up, I just let this book go after a bit.

New clothes.


Thanks to a coupon I had a great time at Macy’s.  I bought:
Two pairs of PANTS THAT FIT!!!!
One green t-shirt, with polka dots and a cute ruffle on the neck.
One absolutely flattering black dress with cute buckle at waist.
One absolutely gorgeous crochet dress which was originally $139.00 and I paid $19.00
One very flattering black t-shirt dress.
One skinny black belt to go with the crochet dress.